Valentine’s Day is approaching. Are you nervous? Two of the most nerve-racking things you can ever say to someone are “I love you” or “We need to break up.”
(Of course, there’s always “I’m not just the lover of the IRA hostage you couldn’t bring yourself to execute in the woods, I’m also really a man,” but that’s another story.)
But is it acceptable to deliver either of these messages through a social network?
The answer, according to an Interflora survey of 2,000 people, is a resounding NO.
Only 1.7% of those surveyed (coming in dead last among responses) said that a social networking site would be a romantic place to say “I love you.” On the other side of the relationship coin, the number-three response for men when asked how they have dumped someone was “through a social networking site.”
Sexting and UnSexting
Surprisingly, the text message is the most common way to break up with somebody for both men and women. When asked in what ways people have “professed their undying love” to somebody, a letter was number one at 38.3%, but a text message was close behind at 38.1%.
Julie Spira of The Huffington Post has a whole list of web etiquette for Valentine’s Day texting and social posts. Knowing what you know about the survey above, try some of these at your own risk. Here’s some do’s and don’ts I wholeheartedly (no pun intended) agree with, however:
- DO: Send a fun and flirty “Happy Valentine’s Day” text to the person you’ll be spending the holiday with. It will generate excitement leading up to your date.
- DO: Send a digital gift, such as his or her favorite band on iTunes, an e-card or a redeemable gift card to a store or restaurant.
- DO: Ask for permission before you post anything online. Remember you’re creating a permanent digital footprint and your status and photos can be shared, even by people you don’t know.
- DON’T: Change your Facebook relationship status to “In a Relationship” until both of you have had the talk and agree to be on the same digital page.
Here’s the full infographic from Interflora about romantic relationships and social media. You’ve been warned!